Social tools provide me with insight into the people that use them. Being able to connect with a musician I have been following for over a decade via his blog, Twitter, etc. is something most of us would never have experienced before. I appreciate the added layer to the guy behind the music. It’s an opportunity to gain some insight into how he thinks and what he cares about, which to me adds so much more depth and meaning to what he creates. This is also the approach I take when reading blogs from those I follow in social media, and friends and acquaintances I keep up with along the way. Having insight and being able to converse on their blogs, Facebook pages, through conversation on Twitter… it makes my experience with these people more meaningful. But where I use it to create value in my own life, there are those that choose to be destructive in their interactions.
I just read this post from Matt Good’s blog called “Trying to Pull Chairs Out of the Floor.”
I’m disgusted (though not surprised) that anyone would use the opportunity and direct links to others that current communication technologies allow us so ridiculously. This has been on my mind as of late with a myriad of conversations I’ve been seeing, the post above is just adding to a long list. Why does the fact that we can now say whatever we want, to whoever we want, whenever we want mean that we get to neglect the fact that the people we are talking to are people too? The social web is becoming more human, and yet it’s making us less so.
Seriously people, there’s constructive feedback, there’s making quality connections and then there’s being dumb and insensitive. A lot of which is coming out on these tools. It’s easy to get sucked into this kind of behaviour, so this next bit is as much a reminder for me as it is for you:
Quit taking something good and turning it into your playground for petty games and grade school politics. It’s your opportunity to impact somebody directly. The impacts of what you put out there are hard to measure. We don’t know how far our actions and words can reach, but the web today takes everything… EVERYTHING… and amplifies it by at least a thousand times.. So if your one of these berating fans, or engage in these petty childish games I keep seeing, do the rest of the world a favour… grow up and be accountable or just shut your mouth.